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Originally Posted by missrachel33
Hi there! I'd like to know more about why you think it's a counter transference issue. I really am curious, since it's the thing that offended me the most about the situation.
I guess writing it all out limits info. I think I didn't articulate that she actual does think it's all important. When I told her I was sorry I said anything, she said, "Why? It's all important in here." I think we will talk more about it. I get the impression she think's it's very important, but not sure she'd ever address w/ me any counter-transference (should she?). That's why I was most curious to read more of your thoughts! Thanks for the input, it does help!  |
I suspect counter-transference because her reaction had nothing to do with your disclosure of your feelings. As a trained therapist, she knows intellectually that the sexual orientation and gender of the client and therapist are irrelevant to transference. For her to immediately profess her heterosexuality says to me that she's projecting some issue of her own into the transference you disclosed.
If she's attuned to her own feelings on it and doesn't work through them in her own therapy, I think she should talk about her possible counter-transference. As a client, you have the right to know about possible barriers to her dealing appropriately with any issue.