we were talking about how what the ex-counselor did to us still hurts in so many ways very badly. she said she was "re-parenting" us(old counselor) and the way she went about it not only caused a huge amount of damage but it ended disasterously. and unfortunately we are finding there are still resistant parts who stubbornly cling to the hope we will return to her and keep in contact with her,even though we have demanded she not continue the relationships. at the very end of our session she-new counselor- looked at us intensely and said "sometimes your eyes look very,very sad". we wonder why...