You are very right buggsbunny..

The thing is that his solution to it is him doing all of it. Which means I will just never be able to sit down with him. So I lose either way. I am a list person, so I absolutely will be making a list like you suggested miguelsmom but that's going to be his answer-- "stop doing it, I will just do it!". And when he "does something" it means that the dirty clothes pile up, credit card bill goes unpaid, etc. which ultimately turns into more work for me in the end! If I don't open his mail then it gets unopened! I don't mind doing all of this, i am really good at it, but it's not our house! it's his house!

And then when I stop doing it, his mom will judge me as being a bad girlfriend because she is one of those women that believes that women should do all the housework -_-..

How much do you guys think is enough to have saved in savings account before moving out and renting a place? (we will be putting away about 500/month into the savings once we move out). Is 5 thousand enough? Really closer to three after we buy furniture and stuff you just need around a house.