why didn't we tell T what happened this week with daughter and then with son? it seems symbolic that old T couldn't help you, and that's what you talked about, so you're saying you're afraid new T can't help you either, so you won't even tell her about stuff? I so get this - I didn't even tell one T I was going to get married until after I did it; she was pretty mad, but I think it just demonstrates how totally unconnected I was to her (or anybody, really) - this was like 30 years ago. I am not saying you're unconnected - I think you are very connected - it was just more a symbolic session about your r/s with T, than a practical, comforting, problem-solving type session. Both types are important and worthwhile, just different. The symbolic is definitely more painful tho.