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Originally Posted by costello
As much as I hate to do it, I'm going to have to look for a nursing home or a group home for him. I love him and I want him to get well, but frankly all the recovery stories I've heard have involved people taking their recovery into their own hands. I can't force wellness on him. He resents and resists every suggestion I make, yet he has no ideas of his own. He can't or won't care for himself, and I can't continue this way. If I didn't have to work or if I had more money so I could hire someone to help, I could keep it up. But I just can't carry on this way much longer.
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Look, I'm going to sound awful to say this, but: if he won't help himself, then you shouldn't have to help him. You certainly shouldn't help him at the expense of your own health and wellbeing. Maybe if he's in a group home, he'll be more willing to help himself because the staff will be more structured than you might be. And if he doesn't, well, it's still not your responsibility or fault.