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Originally Posted by fishsandwich
Look, I'm going to sound awful to say this, but: if he won't help himself, then you shouldn't have to help him. You certainly shouldn't help him at the expense of your own health and wellbeing. Maybe if he's in a group home, he'll be more willing to help himself because the staff will be more structured than you might be. And if he doesn't, well, it's still not your responsibility or fault. |
That's what I always think too when I get in these moods. Then I actually
talk to him again, and I realize how confused he is. I'm not sure he
can help himself.
I talked to him about an hour ago. The thing is he really wants to move out but can't figure out how. He's had so many failures with jobs and things that he's just terrified to even try anymore.
We talked about the whole light thing. I said I've told him a hundred times that the light keeps me awake. After a while I just get angry, because I feel like he doesn't care.
Then he said, "You have to tell me again. I just can't remember. This is why I can't hold a job. It makes me feel stupid that I have to be reminded over and over. I'm not trying to annoy you. It isn't that I don't care. I hate it that I'm causing trouble for you, and I think every day about how I need to get out of here so I'm not bothering you. I just can't figure out how to get my own place."
It breaks my heart. He
is really trying hard. I believe him. Sometimes, though, you try really hard and still fail. And I don't think it's escaped his notice that other people can do these same things easily.
Still waiting to hear from the woman I left the voice mail with.