What a great session with your T. I don't think her husband is necessarily controlling about the money; she could step in and find out how much money they have and make a decision from there; I am like that, don't make the effort to find out, just ask can I spend or spend it. I think men and women think a whole lot differently about money and the "practical" things (if you can sit on the couch the couch is still viable); my husband use to does this thing with the trees and other plants in the yard; if there is a single green leaf, the plant's alive and well and doesn't need replacing, never mind that it might fall on the roof of the house