I'm sorry that DBT is increasing the urges or feelings of frustration for you, Catlovers. As someone who has worked with children with emotional/behavior problems for longer than I'd like to admit , I can tell you that we know that when we address the "identified" problem, we're going to see a sharp increase in that behavior.

Why? Because staff and the child are intensely focused on the behavior that is difficult and troubling. A child or an adult will push against the new constraints and test the boundaries of what is being asked. It's okay and expected. But over time, the behavior will begin to decrease as the child or adult begins to increase their skill set and find hope or the benefits of finding new ways to deal with their emotions. But it all takes time and patience.

I hope you're able to stick with the program and give it a chance to sink in and possibily give you some new or unexpected skills for dealing with difficult and painful emotions. Personally, I don't think that DBT is the complete and total answer to life threatening or life disrupting behaviors and thoughts, but it is one approach to give you some new skills to use in gaining some traction in your recovery. I always approach this stuff with a mindset that I'll take what works and throw the unhelpful stuff away. . . and over time I've learned that some of the stuff that I found unhelpful or just plain "stupid" clicked with me at a later date. . . sometimes after I've heard it a million times and dismissed it as ridiculous . . . and then suddenly it begins to make sense or I'm ready to use what I've been taught. It's all a learning process! Good luck with whatever you decide.