somehow your mom needs some help. it sounds as if she has the self esteem of a rock. and she has learned manipulation, probably, because she is so scared of being rejected...if she outright asks anyone for anything....so the circle goes around and around.

you have a understanding that your mom is sick. your resourcefulness is obviously better than hers. if you see a counselor, perhaps you could ask for suggestions. maybe she would read a pamphlet or a book.

i feel very sorry for anyone who is so afraid to feel that she is worthy of attention.......she may be 71, but she could still learn to love herself and to have a better quality life.

p