Well I can assure you that my intention is not to mother him! But as a woman, you also don't want to be a doormat and let someone take advantage of you, and at some point you have to speak up. If and when, he makes poor choices that only affect him, I don't get involved very much at all. All of the things I have noted here are things that affect me negatively, and that's when I step in and say "hey- this isn't ok."

We have talked, today as a matter of fact, and he has never said anything other than that he will try to take care of his responsibilities and he does love me and wants this to work.