Unfortunatly for our marriage, our house wasn't worth what we owed on it & we couldn't get enough out of it to pay off the debts that had pilled up with all the hospital bills & with the irresponsible financial handling my husband managed after I ended up in major depression after loosing my engineering career.

Our marriage was NEVER good from the beginning & now being away from it & being able to clear my mind from all the anger I had aimed at him, I can clearly that the marriage never should have happened in the first place...but it did, & so did our daughter. I didn't realize that my major depression wasn't just because of loosing my career, but it was from feeling trapped in the marriage because we couldn't afford a divorce with all the debt we had & he wouldn't file for bankruptcy & the life was just a total mess that I wanted out of & I felt my only way out was suicide.....which thankfully never was successful.

Only time I was finally able to get out was after my mother died of cancer & I inherited her house....sold it & was able to leave & move 2100 miles away where I didn't know anyone to be able to start my life over.......still not divorces.....but separated permanently.

Before I left however, we lived in the same house....I had my wing of the house & he had his....lived that way from 1994 to 2007.....it's a long time to live that way & it wasn't pleasant even as room mates who were still married only on paper. I wouldn't recommend it, but when one doesn't have any other choice financially, sometimes we just have to do what we have to do to get through the bad times in hopes that a better future lies ahead.