um, newsflash - the only person we're hiding our feelings from is ourselves? I think our T's took it into consideration when they decided to hug or not to hug, what our motivation was - and found it to be relatively "pure", ie, more focused on the therapy. like the attachmentgirl's blog that was linked to in romantic feelings? the difference between erotic and eroticized transference - when it's erotic, it's still therapy. when it's eroticized, it's like therapy-interfering behavior, to bring DBT into the mix! Only your hairdresser knows for sure My T's hands are like my dad's hands, and that gives me all kinds of uh... positive (yeah, that's the ticket!) feelings. So far, I've stayed away from them, ie, the feelings! but it might be getting time to deal. I wonder if positive feelings are harder to deal with than negative ones? my mother was always so crabby with me, but a couple of times (literally like twice) she said, you don't know what's in my heart. so if there was love or anything positive in there for me, she had a verrrry hard time dealing with it, cos I sure as heck never saw it. I only see disappointment. me, can you frickin believe it? me? we should enjoy all the hugs we get, we DESERVE them. sorry for the long post, if I ever do write a novel, i'll have to call it hijack!