Jenluv, I pretty much just came out with it. I started by saying that i"m having a lot of feelings that are confusing me and need help sorting them out. Then proceeded to say that I have strong romantic feelings for him. His response was, "oh?" which for some reason drove me to hysterical laughter. It's been going on and being talked about for months now in bits and pieces. I finally realized why, that I've never had an emotionally intimate relationship with a man that didn't involve sex. That it's not just sexual fantasy I feel, but love. I don't really know if he shares those feelings for me (attraction) but I do know that he loves me. Wish we could hug but it's probably best for me that we don't (don't want to grab him or anything!) The point is Jenluv, you are in therapy and everything that's going on for you should be able to be discussed. Your T could probably help you gain insight on why it's happening. It must happen all the time with them. I finally have been able to separate that it's okay to have feelings of love for him, and that's a good thing, and the person to focus my sexual energy on is my husband.