We have been married for Three years but have known each other for ten years. I really didn't think our relationship was that bad. She had dmention somethings to me about being distant and not sharing my feelings. Which I have decided to go to counseling and got on meds to stableixe myself. I realize that it will fix some stuff but not all and that I need to work on some stuff. I don't feel she is going behind my back with fileing with a lawyer because well I am the only one that works and we couldn't afford that. On the note of couple counseling well she wanted to go about a year ago but had a couple of things running through my mind at the time. One I didn't see the need or that we or I had a problem. Two sehe confided in me that the counsler she was seeing told her to divorce me which I in turn told her I fel that going to this counsler I would feel ganged up on and felt uncomfortable about the whole thing. Now a year later I am suggesting that we go to couple counseling and she says she doesn't want to go because I didn't want to go with her in the past. Its just seems all a mess. I know I am not a perfect man and have tons of faults, but at least I do love her and want to make this work.