Interesting post, Can'tExplain.

I don't have any answers, but I have heard that as our culture has changed and women have taken on a more autonomous and self-sufficient role, that while some men have been able to adjust, there are men whose very self-concept has been rocked by the changes. They woke up one day, and the rule book was suddenly written in a foreign language, and they don't know how to figure it out.

Only thing I can think of, is maybe broadening how you identify yourself as a man? If your definition is limited to
1. Makes more money
2. Doesn't do house work
3. Has the best car
4. Has penetrative sex frequently enough
..then you're boxed into a pretty small spot with a very limited margin of error. Maybe include things like:
1. Acts as a buffer between the harshness of the world and his family, when a buffer is needed
2. Treats his wife and daughters with such respect and support for their individuality, that they only want to date men who treat them the way their dad treats them.
3. Takes on a role as educator, ensuring his wife and/or daughters know how to manage their money.
4. Is adventurous enough (it's manly to be adventurous) to be willing to get rid of the "old" limited definition of manliness, and is willing to challenge himself to find a much larger definition of manliness that allows you to adjust to the cultural changes that are not going to go away.



I could go on and on. There's just a whole lot more to the breadth of what is "manly" than what you may realize.