Maybe this is the thread that can help me. I am the oldest of three. I have two brothers. Both much much younger. The middle child is a co dependent slug that I haven' t gotten along with in thirty years. The youngest and I have always been friends. Here's the current situation. We found out two weeks ago that your father has inoperable, incurable lung cancer. He didn't even tell me he was in the hospital. Middle child and I got in a big blow up yesterday. I took to bait a couple of times and answered his assanine questions. I have resolved to be done with him after this crisis. How do I deal with him until it is over?