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May 19, 2012, 10:09 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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For many people it has to do with self-esteem. They feel they need to cheat, or end the relationship before the other partner does because they KNOW the relationship is going to end -- so they'll put an end to it first. They don't want to be the one who has to be cheated ON or has to be DUMPED. They know they'll be "let go" in the end. Many times this isn't even something they're aware of -- it's a sub-conscious type thing.
Therapy would be a good idea to get to the bottom of this, and perhaps work on your self-esteem IF that is part of the problem. It does sound like you have some issues with your Dad which could enter into it. It would be good to talk about that in therapy too.
I wish you the very best. Therapy has been GREAT for me -- I've been in and out of therapy most of my adult life and I'm so glad I did it. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee 
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