1st off I want to thank each of you , it really helps to get multiple opinions on this, I want all your help to try an save my marriage if you all have the time is well appreciated ,in my really messed up right now life.Going to post my wifes side what she has told me in the last couple weeks. SHE SAYS: I take everything worst case possible,I be little her,I treat her as a daughter not a wife,my family values are terrible,I cheated on her 16 years ago,I have ocd on house being in order,I talk money cost an what has been spent,my mother does all my banking,everything is in my name,I have no relationship with my daughters,my sex drive is to high,she not aloud in my accounts unless she asks me 1 st,she not happy with her self so there no us till that changes,there's not another man or relationship,she had to quit her full time job cause troubles with are 13 year old missed to much work she went to part time(she worked by choice)she left me recently for 2 days not sure how to react yet she went against my wishes to Virgina beach to drop her 2 sisters kids off with all are problems at home left me with kids,(she has 10 brothers an sisters that could of helped not just us),The hard alcohol made me real short with everything was real moody,I am sorry and tired will post more later.............