Abby I know how you feel

Try to remember that however you feel, this particular place is a place where you DO fit in, by definition.

Think this: this is a place for people who don't feel as if they fit anywhere in life. So if you don't even feel like you fit in here, that means you are a perfect fit on a level even more than most of us!

Abby never compare your pain to that of others. In some cases it is good to have a "reality check" to help you realize that the things one worries about aren't all that important. But that only works for times when we can pick and choose our worries. If you are really in pain, it doesn't matter what the person next to you is feeling, because you don't feel his pain, you feel yours.

I'm not saying you shouldn't empathize with others and in fact I believe that is one of the most helpful and constructive things you can do in order to help yourself as well.

All I am saying is that you should never look at someone else's pain and come to the conclusion that your own pain isn't important in comparison. You have the right to feel better, to work on yourself, to seek treatment. This place doesn't have any "yardsticks" that we measure membership by. Everyone helps everyone else, because whether the pain is "big" or "small" we recognize that it is important and we understand.

So just by virtue of your wanting to be here, it makes you "belong" here.

-- The world is what we make of it --
-- Dave
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