I read it... all of it. It sounds like you've had a really hard couple of years... I sympathize with you on that.
After reading through your post again... I see a lot of his bad points but I'm not seeing any mention of his good side. Does he have one? I'm not seeing what you get out of this relationship. Honestly, I don't see how you can gain his respect, caring and tenderness if he hasn't shown any by this point.
Any real insights into his arrogance, dismissal etc would be impossible without knowing you both better. The impression I'm getting about his character just from what you've written would be pointless to post. It would very likely make you angry and defensive and my post would be edited for profanity.