My T has banned me from contacting him between sessions, even if in crisis. Apparently we have a crisis plan in place which I should follow in such times. In fact it is his crisis plan so that I dont bother him. I'm not allowed to contact him before it gets to crisis either. It feels cruel, and is excrutiating at times when I just need some contact with T. I wish I could contact T, instead I feel rejected and abandoned particularly in times when I am most vulnerable.

I wish my T encouraged me to contact him and cared enough about my welfare as your T seems to. I think if you are in a situation where something is affecting you badly or you really need to contact T, and she is happy for you to do so, then do it. T sounds like she really wants to be there for you when you need her, so take her at her word that she wants to help you.