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May 20, 2012, 12:10 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Wow ~ Bless your heart -- I'm so SORRY you're were injured so badly. After a torn aorta, you're VERY lucky to be alive!! To be honest, I'm surprised they were able to save you, but thank God they DID! 
I have to agree with George -- from what you've said, I can't find anything positive about your husband. He's a jerk.  (sorry) I know you don't consider divorce an option but I wish I could convince you otherwise, because you DESERVE better than this. Do you REALLY want to go thru life with an uncaring jerk like THIS?? At the very LEAST he should be taking care of you right now -- I wonder if you asked him if it was HIM in that wheelchair, and you ignored HIM like he's doing to you, what would he do? Would he leave you? Would he throw a hissy fit? Would he be hurt? Something tells me he would do all of the above. 
And what's this "getting it on" with the Friend? You may have an open marriage, but stuff like that can bring sexually transmitted diseases into the marriage -- I would NEVER allow that kind of activity to go on in my marriage! I'd throw the bum out if he ever did that to me! Who knows what he might bring home -- it doesn't matter if it was a "friend" or not! You don't know where SHE'S been!
I think i'd tell him if he doesn't go into marriage counseling, it's over. That's just MY opinion. I would NOT want to live like that the rest of my days. That's just not living. That's a nightmare. You deserve SO much better than this. If he doesn't want to go, then you'll know he's not willing to put any effort into the marriage --- that it's not worth saving to him.
Best of luck to you -- and I hope and pray your healing is rapid and complete! God bless and please take care of YOU. Hugs, Lee 
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