It's called plain deceitful. I'm not sure why you need to put a psych label on your husband, the 'D' word seems more than enough from this angle. I won't presume to know what goes on in your marriage, but I don't understand why you put up with this disrespectful behaviour, AND stress yourself out with all the snooping and 2nd guessing. Please speak to him, find out if he's willing to go to therapy with you so you guys can get to the bottom of this. You don't deserve such misery. XOXO