I agree with the above. I don't know you, but I know people deserve better from a relationship. I have a bit of a hard time with you saying you are snooping, do you really have a choice? I mean, he is lying to you about mostly everything. I, like Harley, don't really like the idea of telling others what they should do. But I think the ONLY way this could possibly work is through couples therapy. And frankly he doesn't sound like he is really capable of doing the work it would take to earn back your trust (he is blaming you for snooping???). I, too, think it is best for you to move on. You deserve much better! Thanks for posting, I hope to keep hearing from you. And I, too, would be happy to talk through PM if you need someone to listen!