I have to agree with dailyhealing.

I don't think there is a thing as being overly attractive. Even the most beautiful woman can tone down her looks and look beautiful but not so intimidating. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and while your looks may be above average, I find it hard to believe that all lack of any serious relationships is all occurring because of your looks. The most attractive people can be downright nauseating because they can be full of themselves and act being superior, but that's me. Really, anyone who acts like this is unattractive to me.

Anyway, I'm going to be brutally honest in the nicest way I can be.

I think a lot of it does depend on the guy you want to attract. Some may be intimidated, some just not interested because they are taken, and some may be judging you based on all the effort you are putting into your appearance. Obviously you don't want to go out the door looking disheveled, but you would be surprised how little effort an attractive woman needs to put in to look to look their best.

You sound like you spend hours trying to maintain this ideal that you have of what you should look like. But think about it... how many men are going out looking for something or someone they have to maintain? Or that is too high maintenance? Probably not many. Especially the nice, down to earth guy who doesn't make oodles of money. He probably sees his wallet emptying before his eyes.

I also can't say that a man looking at a woman, who appears to spend a lot of time on their looks, is going to have any initial thoughts of her being down to earth or approachable. And if you walk around acting like you know how good looking you are, well, that doesn't exactly say "down to earth" either. It says "shallow," "self-centered," and "fake."

There is a difference between conceited and confident, and I'm sorry to say that I don't sense the later from you. I'm not sure what perfection means to you, but sometimes one's perception of beauty and perfection is skewed. If you even remotely resemble this woman below, you're really really over doing it.

Personally, I think looking put together, polished but not over done, is the way to go. You need to learn what you best assets are, and play those up, and keep everything else subdued or toned down. If you don't want men staring at your chest (as much as you can help it), cover yourself up and don't let cleavage hang out of your blouse. If you have a really big booty, you're not going to attract the right attention wearing skirts that skim the bottom of your butt cheeks. I'm not saying that you are any of these things, but am just trying to make a point that you can be feminine and put together without screaming "SEX" or "DO ME!" (not that you look that way).

Regardless of your appearance, people are drawn to confident individuals who have great personalities, are fun to be around, and are down to earth. I can't imagine all men stay away from you because you embody all of those things. And if you are? than there is something else going on.

Maybe it's your body language, maybe you are trying to hard and are coming off as being ingenuine... Maybe you make them feel like you are looking for a different kind of guy because of your appearance. Are you socializing int he same circles as the type of men you're interested in? Snooki isn't going to nab a David Beckhmam type. Kate Middleton was probably not interested in someone who looked like Howard Stern. If you're looking for the intellectual type, you're probably not going find him binge drinking poolside during Spring Break in Cancun. And if you want a frat boy and you're in the library all day, well he's probably not going to be there with his nose in a book. I think you get my point.

Have you ever asked a friend about this? We can all only suggest things based on what you tell us, but someone who knows you in real life may be able to give you a more personal opinion based on your looks and personality.

Also, if you are as attractive as you say you are, why do you feel the need to keep layering the hair color, nails, etc on? Be yourself, don't overdo it, and learn to love yourself. Confidence comes from within and people will get a sense of that if it's true. It's YOU that you want men to see, not the makeup or hair or nails, so try to tone it down. If what you're doing isn't working producing the results you want, it's time to try something else.

Experiment a few times and go out with your hair in a simple pony tail, jeans and a plain white tshirt, nails clean but unpolished, and maybe just a little mascara, blush and chapstick. See what happens.

Below is a link to a really inspiring group of confident, beautiful women. They look beautiful, polished, some made up a little more than others, some sweet, some professional, others edgy... but your focus is just drawn to the woman herself because of how amazing each of them are. There are before and after images as well as video interviews. Take a look. I hope this helps and good luck to you. Keep us posted.

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