I agree with Leed. You should try to try and create a list of responsibilities for yourselves. You can do the things you are good at, and he can do the same, plus the things he is adamant about

Oddly enough, I have the opposite problem. I am the type A and my boyfriend is the type B! I work part time, he works full time.

Personally, I just want him to put effort into the few things he says he's going to do, because I can't do it all, and for most things, they can't fall by the wayside. There are times that we say, "Oh to hell with it. the dishes can get done tomorrow!" but most times, if things don't get done one day, they start to pile up and there's a day's worth of work to be done by the end of the week, and no one wants to do it. If I am too exhausted to make dinner and he doesn't want to, we end up tossing ripe fruits and veggies that we bought to make the dish. My opinion is that if we do a little every day, we can maintain things. As a rule, I don't believe in avoiding or ignoring anything that matters, and in our small apartment, cleanliness and order is very important to me. The clutter and disorder makes me nuts!

We try to do a little each day, and what I don't like to do he does, and vice versa. To make things easier, I have him choose the chores he doesn't mind or likes doing, and I work on the others.

We work daily on trying to communicate better and trust me dear, it is a struggle, but it does get better with work. We try to hear eachother out, voice our concerns and clarify instead of making assumptions and accusations.

I can be critical of him, but try really hard not to make him feel that way, and not to do it in the first place. Sometimes I don't realize what I'm saying until after the fact. And if I do make him feel bad, I apologize and ask how I could have voiced my concern in a nicer manner that doesn't make him feel bad. He tells me, and I work on it the next time around. We have this problem alot because I often find dishes with food stuck to them...and I have to bring up that he missed spots on the forks, bowls... Arg.

Just not cutting each other off mid sentence can be a challenge for both of us! But we keep at it. The one thing I know is that both of you have to be on the same page and have the same goals to make progress. It takes two to be in a relationship! And two to fight...but you have to learn how to fight, fight fair and believe it or not, fight effectively.

Work on being on the same page first, and work on telling him how you feel about this in a non-confrontational way. Be honest and open, and tell him what you feel like when he talks to you the way he does, and what you ultimately want or what your issue or concerns are. One thing I have learned is that guys are not great with subtleties so he may just need to hear things in straight and to the point.

Just remember to be responsible for your own actions as well. Listen to his concerns equally and if you don't understand, ask him to clarify. And if you can't get the dialogue going to begin, try to go to counseling and see if you can break through his shell. Nothing will get better until you do.

You can do it!