I have heard that people gravitate toward similar stuff from the past because they hope to fix it this time around. It is true, healing does require opening the wounds so maybe this is the draw towards that but truly healing the wounds requires being around healthy people, one being a therapist, and not being around the unhealthy people.

Also, when you grow up in a dysfunctional family, to be around healthy people does not feel comfortable because healthy people see you and when you have low self worth this feels bad. I had to work through this. You have to work through the reluctance to be around healthy people.

These certain circumstances that affect you more then others, these are probably triggers? We are all different and have had different experiences so whatever is affecting you needs to be worked through.