wow, see? it can happen! lol...

@nightsky I'm so sorry to hear of your situation. very different from the one I described, but yeah, dang, hard stuff you write about.

@kirbydog why would it have to be hidden? if you waited an appropriate amount of time after ending the counseling relationship... it just would be awkward answering the "so, where did you meet?" question

@Mike_J I'm not talking about acting on a fling. I'm just saying I don't think it's INHERENTLY harmful

and regarding that study, it says the patients were "harmed" but what does that mean? Who defined "harm"? Does that mean the patients regretted it? And did the study take into account mutually consenting relationships? It sounds like those were situations closer to the one that Nightsky suffered, in which case, yeah I can see how that harms people.

Anyway, it's just a theoretical situation. I have no evidence my former T actually felt anything like this for me, just wishful thinking. I can see situations in which it can work out and it looks like @openmind0722 has just such a situation.