ketl1,

Sometimes, we have "off" days with our significant other. That's when we are just on different points of view, and explanations of our view make no difference in the mood. That does occur occasionally in long-term relationships.

If these off days are occurring pretty regularly (once a month, or more) you really need to look at the relationship more closely. What are you putting into the relationship? What is he putting into the relationship? I am also very hypersensitive ~ which I can see that it adds a lot of unnecessary stress to relationships at times. Like it did in this situation..."we went to dinner and the waitress was kind of rude. We were talking about how people we know handle rudeness in other people. So he was like, “Man, [our mutual friend] would have totally known how to handle that situation, she is the least socially awkward person I know.” So I was like “ha ha… I hope you’re not making a comparison!” And he was like “WHY DO YOU ALWAYS DO THIS” and got very annoyed."

You were feeling hypersensitive, testing to see if your mutual friend was more appealing to him now. His reaction wasn't what you hoped for either, I'm sure. He didn't give a silly reassuring smile or chuckle, like comments like those used to get. Right? It is hard to come to the closer part of the relationship, where our SO sees our weakness and becomes angry with us about it. Unfortunately, that's a recurrent theme in our lives.

There are positives to hypersensitivity. We are more open to helping other people who do need help ~ I'd recommend following that avenue. Volunteer at Boys & Girls Clubs, YMCA, soup kitchens, elderly networks, environmental groups, etc... These groups are happy to have people like us helping them! A win-win situation, imo.

When you get home, try to use your "wise mind" more often to avoid conflicts. Best wishes to you!