I am also married 23 years this August,we are on are 3rd meeting with are counselor as well hope your meeting are not 1 time a month like ares was,starting this Tuesday we are ever 2 weeks.We was asked the same thing,my wife has 1 foot in 1 out she said,I believe that means as far as I can tell so far, they want to stay in marriage. Big changes has to happen to keep marriage,good luck to you both is very heart braking to go through.