I know you both, and I KN0W you'd never be mean to someone you don't know from a bar of soap, but it IS a very challenging thread, and I hope the OP doesn't feel offended. Maybe a M0D could add a trigger icon. My daughter was going thru a terrible time 2yrs ago, at the age of 6, and I guess in a sense I got triggered too, coz what does a 6y.o know about anything? We as parents do know tho, that little girl didn't ask to be here, but the OP has a choice, a say, in her life and marriage and I just find the post saddening, and maddening at the same time. Idk, maybe I shouldn't have responded, I have trouble with knowing when to keep my mouth shut tho