sorry you're feeling upset, I hope you overcome the urges to SI.

I'm not sure I understand.. My T always asks me at the end of each session - 'do you want to make another appointment?'... I think your T was perhaps trying not to have a power struggle with you, but give you the power. It is your decision if you want to attend therapy each week. Maybe she thought it presumptuous to assume you are going to keep showing up? Wouldn't that be more like forcing you? By asking you, she's making it clear the choice is always yours...