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Leed · May 21, 2012, 08:36 PM

It sounds to me like you have done all you could for your family -- you obviously are committed to them 100%.

But, I do think you could ease up on a few things. You said you were "OCD" on some things. How about TRYING to ease up on the housekeeping a LITTLE. I mean the house does NOT have to be "sterile." LOL Do you have any idea how HARD it is to keep it in the shape that you're asking? Especially when there's KIDS in the house -- and your wife is working! So what if she doesn't HAVE to work -- maybe she is tired of staying home cleaning that darn house! LOL She might want to get out among people!! I'm NOT saying to let the house get filthy -- but let the KIDS help clean it too!! They aren't prima-donnas ya know. Get them to vacuum, dust, scrub and whatever needs doing. They need to learn how to keep house too. Wife doesn't have to do it all.

The house NEEDS to be in your wifes name. What if something happened to you? Then the house, etc., would have to go thru probate and that would take forever and it would be a lot of trouble for her. If her name is on it, it would just plain be HERS and she could do what she wanted with it. Same with the accounts. Granted, you don't want her draining the accounts, so put her name on it as Mr AND mrs -- not Mr OR Mrs. That way you BOTH have to sign to withdraw.

But some things you're going to have to ease up on just as SHE is going to. AND NO you're not an alcoholic if you're just drinking a couple of beers. But remember that it's not how MUCH you drink -- it's what the alcohol DOES to you that matters. If it changes how you act, what you do, what you say -- then you have a problem with it.

There's things she has to change, like how she feels about her SELF. You can't do that for her --all you can do is change things about YOU. So stop totally stressing out about everything. Some things you just can't change, my friend. All you can do is change YOU and how YOU react. God bless and keep the faith. Hugs, Lee