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May 22, 2012, 12:10 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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That's rotten! It's amazing how some friends treat us. I guess we can't call them "real" friends. These are just USERS!!!  These are people we only hear from when they WANT something!! And we're too nice of people to say NO. We have to start setting boundaries. We HAVE to learn to say NO.
I had to learn that. I used to do the same thing. Whenever anyone asked me to do something for them, like watch their kids, run an errand, etc., I ALWAYS said yes. But whenever I asked them for a favor, which was hardly EVER -- they never had time. So -- I decided I'd never ask again, and I'd never do anymore favors either. I won't be a "doormat" anymore.
I know it's rough when you NEED someone. It really hurts. I guess in my case I chose the wrong kind of people to be my friends. The trouble is, I don't know how to choose the RIGHT kinds of people.  They SEEMED like "good" people when I met & hung around them -- but obviously they were self-centered & selfish. In fact when my husband died, they ALL dumped me! Guess they didn't want a single woman in their "couples only" group. 
Wish i could help you -- but I wanted you to know that you're not alone. I know for a fact there are lots of others like us out "there." We ought to form a "lonelyhearts" group! LOL God bless & please take care. Hugs, Lee 
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