Adoption rearing its (ugly) head for me. Again. My first cousin and her husband emailed me out of the blue yesterday to introduce me to their new infant daughter that "they'd been waiting for...for three years".

I sent congratulations and asked where they were registered.

I saw pix of the baby and I felt nothing (except maybe slightly disgusted). And I saw photos of my cousin beaming at her baby girl, and she looked ugly to me.

Seriously. OK, I know I have problems (this is definitely trigger for me. I understand my POV may be distorted due to my own (bad) experience; however, WTH?!)

What in the world? I mean they really wanted children and could not get pregnant. SO they WAITED for three years for...AN INFANT!

No, they didn't want any ol' child. and they didn't want any 'headaches' or "extra work" associated with an older child?

They wanted a brand new shiny baby. This is WHY I have such a hard time with the whole adoption issue when it comes to this specific scenario:

When couples want to have children (whom they claim "desperately"), cannot have their own biologically, decide to go to Plan B but insist on waiting for an infant...FOR THREE YEARS!!...WTH (you cannot want a FAMILY that badly, right?).

In the meantime, there are plenty of children in every state, in every county that are being neglected, abused, are alone ... just praying and hoping for a family to love them.

I just don't understand it. It seems so incredibly selfish to me. The whole business is just ugly.