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First, you need to clearly define and figure out who your real friends are. For me personally, a person needs to prove themselves as being a good friend to me before I give them the title of "friend". Now an aquantance (sp?), those I have. But true friends who are really there for you and you are there for them, those are rare. From experience, I have found that people really are wrapped up in themselves, their lives, and their families. It's reality, it's life. I feel for you. There are days where I feel totally overwhelmed and need someone to talk to. I will not call my mother, my sister, father, whoever else, because everyone is busy busy busy....Find things that are therapeutic to you and is a form of release for your emotions. I have found things that I can do on my own to release and relax. You have to understand that people do not owe you anything. That is a harsh reality that you will find out. No one owes you anything. When you find that one true friend, hold on to them. Your friends may come around....Give it time. Until then, find things you can do on your own...Meet new people and make new friends. You know what I thought about doing just recently? I don't have friends. I'm in a relationship, the easiest friends for me to make are men, but my man won't allow it. What I will do, is just go have a drink by myself in a bar. Relax and unwind. Every time I go out alone (which I haven't done in awhile) I always end up having a great time. I meet new people, mingle, conversate for hours sometimes... I am careful though. I do not get drunk. I'm a smart girl. I watch my drinks, don't drink too much but just enough to relax and conversate....I'm a loner. I have learned to adapt to doing things on my own...Find something that works for you. I have things that work for me.
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