I too rely on buses.

When I was going to my holistic appts. (not DBT, but same dynamic) I was often early, too and often the therapists were late. My aunt (who raised me, probably had bpd too) never tolerated lateness, in me or in her friends. So she made me always early for things. I used to sit outside places before the doors were unlocked! And the ppl always wondered why I was doing that! lol

So, I was always early for th ings as an adult.

As an adult, I never tolerated lateness,auntie implied that when people are late (me or anyone else) it meant they did not care about the relationship or our feelings). So I always assumed that when ppl were late, it meant they did not care.

Not sure if th is feedback is helpful, but I needed to respond.

You may take it or leave it.

Maybe what I relate to the strongest is dealing with others' lateness or faux pas's and never feeling like I could ever make a mistake or be late? And that's what made me the angriest. Never being allowed to be a human being and then having to allow everybody else to be one?

Interesting post.

Billi