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Originally Posted by missbelle
I liked bowhunters comments. It is what I would have written probably. Yes You have to let this go and its hard I know. You have to make a daily effort to do this or it all will eat at you. I do think that they really meant nothing by that card and knew also which buttons of yours to push and you responded just as they had hoped.
Let your s/o go the next few times to see his parents, and you spend some time with your friends etc while he goes. Get a little time between you, and them before you see them again. Sometimes people jut don't click. Also they may not even be aware that they are not the Happy American Family.
Right now, as they say at AA, "They are renting space in your head" You got to kick them out!!
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Missbelle- you are so right with the quote from AA -
And you are right- I need to go out with a friend or do something outside when he goes to see his parents- I know me to well that I would get wrapped up if I just stayed home.
I think you are partially right with pushing buttons-
They have issues with their first son and his wife, and so much lack of communication and I know I don;t know the full story, but I think apart of them wants to see how I am with triggers-
Their first daughter in law- is upset, doesn't see them, and much more there than anyone else knows about.