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Originally Posted by 2or3things
Do you have any sense of if those folks are usually right when they unearth other memories? I don't know why I'm so hung up on being "fair" to my abuser. (More issues to dive into with T, I suppose.  ) Anyway, I guess the hardest part is just not knowing exactly what happened, and maybe never finding out. |
There were two things that I was SURE not even my mother would have done and I must have been making it up. Found out fairly recently from my sisters that one of those things was true. After my dad died, my aunt mentioned the gun incident I was sure I was making up and how much it scared her and she wasn't sure that I was going to live through my childhood. So, I know those two things are true. And I also know the conviction I had growing up that I really and truly might die at my parents' hands was also true.
In reference to other survivors, some just never get that validation. Somehow they figure out how to live with the uncertainty. This is something that your T should be able to help you with.
Oh, and the eh, it wasn't great, but I'm fine thing is exactly my attitude. My T kept using my daughter as an example to show me what happened to me was a big deal, but I had a fit about it and made him stop.