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Originally Posted by eastcoaster
Me, three!!! Same thing - when I talk about my sad feelings, I dissociate, turn intellectual and there is this wall that goes up between my heart and the rest of me. A protector, indeed... just want to unlearn this damaging pattern and relearn a healthy one...
If anyone has tips/tricks, let me/us know! At least we're all in this together...  |
Me, four! I absolutely HATE when I go numb and cannot let the feelings out! Hate it with a passion. I'd honestly rather hurt than not feel anything at all. That's like being dead. At least when I'm hurting, I'm alive.
The only thing that seems to help with me is visualization. I'm kind of weird, and this might not work for everyone, but it seems pretty powerful. I visualize what I want to change.
I first tried this when I was trying to let T in and couldn't. It works best for me at night, when I'm in that relaxed state before or after sleep. I visualized the wall between me and the rest of the world, and over 3 nights I was able to conjure up T INSIDE the wall. The wall remained intact - I just let him inside. Did it work? Oh you betcha!! The next session I was so sensitive to him that I cried for 3 days over perceived slights.
Really powerful stuff, but the bottom line is that the visualization worked. This is the only thing I've come up with so far.
Maybe others have some workable ideas. I'm open to ideas!!