Thank you all for helping me see that 'big picture'. What is frustrating to me is that I got thru (or seemed to) those horrid traumas more gracefully than I do everyday irritations now. It's like I just finally reached a point that I can't 'deal' with much. Yesterday the cat peed on the carpet and I went ballistic! And yes, I'm seeing that my outburst had little to do with the cat.

So much to learn. I've talked with marriage counselors, etc, over the years, but usually addressing some big problem of someone else's. I just never had the opportunity before to get my own 'stuff' out there for examination. And in my family...you NEVER talk about what bothers you, it's just not accepted.