The thing your dad is missing is that he is not a victim. He is suffering consequences of his illegal and immoral actions toward you. Consequences are not the same as victimization. If I could, I would hang a sign around the neck of every pedophile in the world that they were unable to remove. People around him need to be warned. He might molest again. Even worse... statistics say he is LIKELY to molest again and again and again. His church NEEDS to know his past. Forgiveness is not the same as consequences. Forgiveness is not the same as trust. A pedophile is not to be trusted in a church counseling situation. You are allowed to talk about your pain and who caused it. If you speak the truth, it's not your fault if he suffers pain from consequences of it. In reality... he is suffering from consequences of his actions and not consequences of your truthtelling.

I hope you are out of his house now. It must be incredibly hard to be in the same house with a sex offender.

It's a wild world, but someone's gotta ride it!