I'm glad to hear that your marriage counseling was such a wonderful opportunity to open up on both sides & really get things out in the open......wonderful thing is that you see the things that went wrong on both sides & are truly willing to work on the things that are your responsibility to make the marriage work...sounds like your wife is taking the same responsibility on the things that she needs to work on.

It's important to keep going to the marriage counseling.....some of those behaviors even though you know what to do have become sort of a learned behavior....& while working on the changing so that the new behavior becomes the normal one....it's good to keep going to the marriage counselor so that they can keep working with you on the difficult areas.

Really glad to hear that things are looking up. I know that my husband's comment was that it was the way he was & those kinds of things can't be changes.....which all studies have proven him wrong....but his stubborn thinking doesn't care that there are any proofs of his thinking being wrong....he was right & he would fight to his death on being right.....can't ever make a marriage work with those kinds of attitudes.....so it really makes my heart feel good that you are taking such a positive attitude & action toward your marriage....just wanted to let you know that.

Impressed with your thinking & ability to think through your situation & willingness to work so seriously & truly caring about your wife & allow your emotions to come out without hiding them......that openness is definitely one thing that is necessary in making a marriage work.

Will be looking forward to hearing how things are going in the future. I'm glad that you were able to open up here at PC.....that is the one thing I truly appreciate about PC also is that one gets to view all different thoughts & opinions about how people see situations.....& the blend of all, come together & really help us open up our views on the issues we struggle with.

Take care & hope to hear more on how things are progressing with your marriage & with your children in the future.