thanks! It has always been made clear to all concerned (myself, my ex, and the caregivers) that ex and I are entitled to be at any medical appt, so that is why i am even angrier than i might have been had it been an oversight (not good enuf either tho!). Had 1 instance where her caregivers turned up to the hospital when no1 was sick, and ex said he was going coz there were too many ppl there. Caregiver turned to me and said that if he was going i had to go too! Luckily her supervisor was there with us and pulled her into line. Caregiver has a prob with me (as I do her at the mo) so I wouldn't be surprised if she had deliberately not told me on Friday... but i guess i'll have to wait til tomorrow to talk to CYFS worker about this and hear her explanation... can't wait