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Originally Posted by lv99atheist
Are you all from Seattle? I live in probably the worst place in the U.S. to make friends. There's even a term for it: The Seattle Freeze.
I'm in the same boat. I crave relationships, but even getting to the "friends" stage seems impossible.
I know I'm not the best at making daily contact with people; but I don't usually disappear on them completely. I really do care about people... a lot. Probably too much, actually. I can't handle a lot of social interaction all at once. It's a bit odd, but when I do make friends with someone, if I can't focus entirely on that friend, and if s/he doesn't focus entirely on me, I feel like we're missing something.
Sorry, I don't have any advice, just a lot of sympathy.  |
i am gay and even in the lgbt community i find myself to be an outsider. i am below average in looks and success and personality. it has always been a problem. i know that your name includes the word atheist and, believe me, i struggle with religion and spirituality big big time, but lately i have found the safest and friendliest place to go is to the lgbt group at a nearby church. i feel safe there and the people are less judgmental and friendly.
seattle has a branch of the metropolitan community church (MCC) and i don't think you have to believe everything to qualify as a parishioner. See:
http://www.mccseattle.org/ i think a lot of your issues (and mine) can be helped with spiritual healing. that is, the healing that happens when you have trust in something and that that something can help you to have a better life. it is so important to find a place where everyone is welcomed and treated humanely, and you need to find a place like that where you can meet others. please think it over. good luck to you!