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May 24, 2012, 10:30 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Can you get Visitiing Nurse service? Do you live in the United States? How about getting some respite care? Would his insurance pay for it? Does he HAVE insurance? There MUST be some kind of help available. Let us know where you live (whether it's the U.S. or not) and if he has insurance and maybe we can come up with something.
You DO need a break from this. How disabled is he? Can he get up and around? What kinds of problems does he have? I'm sorry for all the questions, but we need to know so we can be of more help.
Taking care of someone is a 24hr a day job, and no one can do it forever! You MUST have help! My husband had terminal cancer, and I was his sole caregiver for many months until i just couldn't do it anymore, and I called Hospice to come in and help me. Trouble is, they only came in 3 times a week - and a a nurse came. She took his vitals, etc., and recorded stuff that I'd done. Then a nurses aide came a couple of times a week to help me change his bedding, give him a FULL bath, as I just sponge bathed him other days. I was supposed to get respite care, but the woman they assigned to me didn't want to get out in the "bad weather." This was in January!!! So I NEVER got any respite care!! So for 7 months, I was never allowed to leave the house!! My daughter picked up the mail -- went to the store, etc. My husband couldn't be left alone. 
So I totally understand your despair. PLEASE talk to your doctor. Perhaps for a short time anyway, he could put you on an antidepressant, just to get you over the hump until you can maybe see a therapist? You definitely need some help!!! An antidepressant WOULD HELP!! It would stabilize your mood, and make you feel "normal" again (whatever that is  ). It pretty much saved MY life when my husband was dying. I'm still on it, and have been for many years. I'll probably be on it for the rest of my life.
Please call your doctor. You won't regret it, my friend. You'll be in my prayers, as well as your dad. God bless and please take care! You DO have a reason for being on this earth -- you just have to find out what it is. Take care. Hugs, Lee
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