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May 24, 2012, 11:44 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Yes Kyle -- i hear you.  And I can understand too. There was a time when I was exactly where you are right now. Now that I'm older, I guess i've developed some coping skills. I'm NOT saying this for anyone to feel sorry for me, believe me, but i have NO friends either. They all dumped me when my husband died -- guess they don't want a single woman in a "couples only" group. Who knows? But I've determined that I'm better off without them.
But at YOUR age, I'd feel just as you're feeling. Miserable, and on the phone to a crisis center. Why do you hate to admit that you've called a hot line?  That's what they're there for -- to help! Don't be embarassed about it -- I'm PROUD of you for doing it!
You said your therapist is a good one, but you don't feel you're getting anywhere -- don't you think you've made ANY progress??? If you don't, then it's time to change therapists!! I've had to do that before -- sometimes they just aren't the "right fit." You've GOT to be able to really communicate with your therapist, and he's GOT to totally understand where you're coming from and to relate! if that doesn't happen, then you HAVE to change. Simple as that. And you KEEP changing until you find one that clicks. It's imperative, or you won't get anywhere at all. I finally found a psychologist who really ROCKED -- and I made progress fast! She was awesome, and i got my "power" back. I was able to make decisions that I was never able to make before. I was able to stand up for myself which was something I could never do before. People noticed the change in me, and were astounded!  In fact I scared some people. LOL One of the people I scared was my husband when I asked him for a divorce after he mentally abused me for 26 years! LOL All of a sudden he couldn't do that anymore. That was fun. LOL
I wish I could help you more -- but sadly I can't. But I'll be more than willing to listen so feel free to private message me if you'd like to talk further. Take care of yourself & God bless. Hugs, Lee
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