My hubby is willing to accept a 40% decrease in his income. I cannot understand him. He has an unemployed wife and a new baby and he is okay with not looking for a better job? (background: his current gov't job is ending and he is sliding into a position created for him because his boss likes him.)

He currently has a secret security clearance. I'm certain he can find another job making more than what he is making now . . . if only he would apply for other jobs.

I'm so frustrated. I just do not have the skills to talk to him and convince him he needs to apply for other jobs. I want to cry every time I think about it.

I always think about me and how I would do things. I would be determined to do all I could to provide for my family. But, I have to put myself into his shoes. I need to be more empathetic. I know he has his self-esteem issues.

I wish I knew how to bring this topic up in marriage counseling without offending him. I've mentioned applying for other jobs at least 3 times. We've discussed this a little in marriage counseling. But, last session he said he was going to accept this job; he said it so happily.

Auggh!!!!!!!