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Originally Posted by Irreplaceable
There's a few things that could be going on with her....
1) She is jealous of your relationship. Is your man attractive? Is he her type. Is she single?
2) She wants your man. What have you told her about your relationship?
3) She's jealous of the fact that you are spending time with someone else more than her and maybe she feels that he is taking her place.
4) She could be single and miserable.
These are all obvious guesses. I need to know what she said in order to give a better response but it's most likely one of the above. She started acting funny AFTER you started dating your bf? Yea, gotta be one of the above.
On a side note. It is never wise for a female to voice her objections about her best friend's man. NEVER good. In a lot of situations it will end badly. The fact that you said that she dislikes him for no reason. Are you sure there is nothing that he has done? The fact that she dislikes him really makes me believe it's jealousy. Why else would he bother her so much? He is abusive towards you? Is he mean to you?
On a side note, are you sure that you are really done with your friends? You two have been friends since kindergarten (that is too cute by the way. I wish I had a friend I knew that long). If the relationship is truelly over, then it's over. Try to get closure. If she was really hurtful towards you then let her go. Maybe she will come back around.
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Thank you for your reply! Yes he is attractive, although she has told me she does not think so. She is single, yes. I definitely don't think she is interested in him, because of things she has said to me about him. She basically called him a loser who is not going anywhere in life. My boyfriend works construction (building house foundations) and has held that employment for over six years now. He makes close to $30/hour (canadian). I have no idea why she finds him to be a "loser." Like I've stated, she NEVER took any time to try and get to know him. And when I say she had a hate on him from the beginning, I mean day ONE. I have never told her anything bad about him- only good things, which she didn't seem to care about.
The only actual fact she has stated about her disapproval, is that she once told me she thought he was too old for me. (He is 7 and a half years older).
I have thought, and many have told me that she is likely jelous, maybe not of him in particular, but of our relationship. I always tried to continue to do lots with her. Obviously I spend a lot of time with him, but I always tried to still do lots with her, but our schedules conflict and she always blamed lack of plans on me.
When I say I'm done with her, I don't mean that it I never want to see her again. I know more than anyone how amazing our friendship has been, and I do not want to lose it. It's like she has become a different person. I have been in tears countless times because of her the past several months. I just feel like right now, there's nothing I can do, and I do not want someone in my life that is causing me constant hurt and stress. Of course I hope she comes around eventually.
Thanks again for your support
