hillbunnyb . . .

. . . i'll have to reread your post a few times . . . and think more about your suggestions.
i can't think straight about this. i keep wondering how we are going to survive taking this 40% decrease in pay.
the new gov't job is a contract position, therefore there are no benefits, except job familarity.
here in the DC area, if you have a security clearance you are a hot commodity. i see no reason we should have to suffer with the pay cut.
my hubby comes home exhausted from work. they overwork him and he doesn't enjoy the job. this fact adds to my frustration. he isn't "applying" himself because of his self-esteem and depression issues. i'm not able to mention his depression without setting him off . . . defensive, anger, argumentative passive-agressive-like.
i want to help uplift him, not push him into what i want him to be. i need to be tender. i need to be patient.